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As the year draws to a close and the new year rolls in, it’s easy to feel motivated to kick 2017’s butt. Everyone everywhere is talking about how they’re going to improve their lives next year and is bidding adieu to whatever misfortune befell them the year previous. But a few days in, how does one keep that energy going in order to actually accomplish what you said you would?
Here are a few simple tips to keep in mind in 2017.
Keep these things in mind and remain honest with yourself. You’ll be amazed at what you can accomplish with a little more specificity and a little less grandstanding. You really, truly, actually CAN do it!
Happy 2017, everyone!
Kindness is a strong virtue to embody. It comes easier to some than to others, but without it, a society cannot cooperate nor thrive. We are a cooperate species, but we are also an arrogant one; without kindness and a certain level of understanding, survivalism and violence brew — and can easily spiral out of control.
However, kindness — or what I should call “niceness” — can also spiral out of control. It can even cause us harm, albeit of a different variety.
This saccharine niceness to which I refer is the kind borne by fear or anxiety — an automatic, learned response of apologetic subservience regardless of its appropriateness to the individual situation. Women especially may know this feeling all too well, but men are certainly not exempt from the experience.
Many have convinced themselves subconsciously that this behavior is a “true” reflection of inner aptitude — that they are somehow inherently less capable than their peers, and thus to fight that would be a fool’s errand. This thinking is one of the most harmful and dangerous ideas that settles into the human psyche, because it inspires only defeatism. Despair overtakes us. Personal growth plateaus.
At that point, things get dicey. Cortisol levels build and stress begins to harm you in a very real and physical manner — weight gain, learning and memory problems, depression, difficulty sleeping…the list goes on. Though some “good” stress can help us kick it into high gear during a pinch, this stress hormone often does not know when to call it quits, and our bodies and minds suffer the consequences.
Returning to this concept of fearful niceness, it is easy to see how anxiety plays a part in this kind of interaction. Many people write themselves off subconsciously, practically apologizing for their presence, communicating all of this in the way they carry themselves. When this kind of behavior is accepted internally as “just the way it is”, it robs us of our chance at happiness.
Luckily, techniques exist to quell this kind of indiscriminate fear response:
Ultimately, it’s about one thing: practice, practice, practice. Practice trusting yourself more and seeking approval less.
And remember that one of the strongest weapons in our arsenal is the smile. Smiling tricks your body into releasing endorphins, even if you’re not feeling happy.
So smile. Be kind. But stand tall.
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